'She got angry': Dude gives woman unsolicited gym advice, wonders if he's wrong

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    Font - Posted by u/Educational_Hunt8545 AITA for offering unsolicited gym advice? I was in the gym today. When I was bench pressing, I noticed the woman next to me struggling while benching just the bar. As in, arched back, audibly wheezing, jerky movements. After finishing her set with just the bench, I see her loading 25 pound plates onto each side.
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    Font - This struck me as unsafe for her: if she was struggling with just the bar, 50 more pounds is not a good idea. So I walked over to her and asked if she needed a spot. She said no, and so because I didn't want her to do something potentially dangerous, I told her she might want to ease back on the weight and try progressing more gradually.
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    Font - She got angry and started ranting to me how she doesn't need some strange guy talking to her and hitting on her at the gym. I wasn't hitting on her, I was quite literally concerned for her safety. Was I in the wrong here? I feel I approached this politely.
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    Font - OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the ale: I gave a woman unsolicited gym advice after she did something I consider to be a safety risk. This might make me TA because she started ranting that I should just mind my own business.
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    Font - LemonAle22 Well, slight YTA. You should know better than to approach strange women at a gym, even when trying to protect them from themselves. When she first said no, you should have left it at that and walked away, instead of giving unsolicited advice which she probably interpreted as you wanting to keep the conversation going and hitting on her. Reply Share 152 Educational_Hunt8545 OP Fair enough. I recognize that I could've made her uncomfortable, but I made the judgement call the pote
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    Font - 3xlduck Most people don't want unsolicited advice, esp at the gym. Just the society we live in. Women can also be little more wary at the gym when guys they don't know approach them offering to "help". Not a slam on you or your intentions in this case. She's probably better off watching some YT videos or hiring some personal trainer if she really wants help. 53 Reply Share ●●●
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    Font - TRCK TWOT AXJ abstractengineer2000 NTA, People just don't realize the danger of Bench pressing alone. they could literally die. If alone without a spotter, the benching weights have to be at least 25% lighter to allow the completion of the x number of reps for y number of sets. You were right to advise about the safety but back off after one attempt. There are people who will also be aggressive. Just tell the Gym trainer to keep an eye on said person and move on. After all if they fell in
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    Font - Zibura Arch back is your tell tale sign that she's bad at bench? Arched back is one of the most common ways to teach people how to bench. Makes getting shoulder stability easier, decreases the range of motion, increases pec activation, helps with leg drive, and is perfectly safe for your back. Yta because you don't know what your talking about yet want to give advice. Reply Share 29
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    Font - MuppetJonBonJovi YTA- there is nothing worse than unsolicited advice at the gym from gym bros that "are just trying to help." As a female it's very uncomfortable. There are staff at every gym to assist and if she needed help, she could have easily approached them. Honestly, unless asked, keep to yourself at the gym. (And I'm betting all the N T A's are from men who have very different gym experiences than a female). Seriously, to all of the gym guys, make it a rule... DO NOT APPROACH WOME
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    Font - Beat_The_Game NTA. You were trying to be helpful and prevent her from injuring herself. 21 Reply Share Educational Hunt8545 OP Yeah, there was serious risk she could've hurt herself, and plus it was really early so there weren't even any staff there. ↑ 7 Reply Share
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    Font - No-Locksmith-8590 Yta unfortunately, she said no. If you're concerned about safety go to a gym worker about it. 21 Reply Share 2 Educational_Hunt8545 OP There weren't any gym workers there ●●● Reply Share
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    Font - marinasubmarina YTA If she would need help she would ask for this. Was talking with my friend recently about almost the same situation. She didn't need advice. She was bothered. She is uncomfortable now going to that gym. P.s Leave the girls in the gyms alone, my gosh Reply Share 17 ●●●
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    Font - Healthy_Brain5354 YTA, it's not your job to give advice at the gym, you should have been minding your business. 9 Reply Share ●●● Educational_Hunt8545 OP She could've been injured, of course that's my business 13 Reply Share ●●●
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    Font - MissJew YTA, if you are worried about her safety inform gym staff. Don't approach people at the gym and do not continue speaking at them when they've told you to leave them alone. 7 ↓ Reply Share Educational_Hunt8545 OP There were no gym workers present 0 Reply Share ●●●

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